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1. How to have my child convinced on something that most of his/her classmates are doing but not good based on Christian values? I can tell him/her the reasons but he/she just can’t seem to personally accept it wholeheartedly.

2. I understand it is important to have good Christian friends. However, my son’s character is more reserved and not good in sports and many of the boys around his age are very sporty and do not want to include him. Can you give some advice on that?

3. My child has much head knowledge on the Bible but when the opportunity arises, he can’t really apply what he learns. I am impressed by how young Joseph and Daniel can fear God even when in a foreign country away from families. How can I guide my child to apply the biblical learning on his own?

4. As a late first generation believer, I did not benefit from growing up in a Christian home. Thus I did not have a precedence I could follow for bringing up my own children. While I know in broad terms what we should aim for, the practical actionable aspects eludes me. I am ashamed to say that growing up in a typical Singapore culture, the mindset of wanting to be taught what is the right-way of doing things is ingrained in me. So while understanding the "why" and urgency of the need to bring up the children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, the how and the specifics can sometimes be unclear. Some example that had been helpful to me were, when Pastor Quek mentioned that in his home, lying is a clear case for the rod; the home should be a place/refuge from the world for the children so that the attractions of the world would pale in comparison. Also I would like to know what are suitable devotional materials (on top of Proverbs and RPGs) and how parents can guide the children in the reading of the bible (particularly which books/chapters are suitable for which age/maturity), etc.

Thank you for reading my long question.

5. 1 Samuel 3:13" For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.“ does this verse mean that parents who have disobedient teens should ground them at home and forbid them to go out or have access to the worldly friends?

6. Teenagers may start to take interest in the opposite gender. How do I teach them to glorify the Lord in this aspect and also the risk of pornography?

7. My child does whatever you tell him to such as go to church, do his QT, go for teenz class and pray. He may even do his QT without me reminding him. However I feel that he may not be saved because I feel that he does not really enjoy doing these. He probably does it because he is afraid to go to hell if he dies. He doesn’t seem to have a intimate relationship with the Lord. He doesn’t seem to bear fruits of repentance in that he don’t seem to have fruits of the spirit such as patience with family members etc. How should I help him?

8. Do you let your children attend those sexuality education as they didn't teach abstinence and against LGBT? Also, how to teach children in same gender schools about their reaction when they see their friends in LGBT relationships especially with the current news that MOE are under questioning abt a girl hormone treatment. With the advance of social media, our children may face being shamed in public if they go against LGBT friends. How do I go about to teach them to stand firm in the Lord?

9. How do parents help their children to manage/control the time spent and content accessed in a godly manner when they are using electronic devices (like mobile phones and laptops). We cannot be policing their use of devices all the time.

10. Is it ok for parents to give their children the “cold shoulder”? If not, how should parents then deal with their youth/ adult children when they commit sins?

11. How do I handle teens who are addicted to gadgets ( games, social media , pop music etc). My teenage child attends YF and he thinks he is saved. it seems like the lure of the media seems to have taken over most of his time and he hardly have time for bible reading, quiet time etc. It doesn't help especially in the current Covid situation, when he is required to have the gadget for study and project work.

12. Currently, secondary schools can admit between 20% to 50% of places through Direct School Admission (DSA) exercise. Can our children participate in DSA exercise to gain admission to schools? Is it faithless if we were to train our children in a particular area in the hope that they may use such "talents" for dsa?

13. My teenager is involved in BGR against our blessings. The “opposite” party is an unbeliever and is luring my teen away from Christian values and into worldly vices. Even after a year long of prayer and counselling, my teen is still hanging on to this relationship. Dear Rev Quek and Mrs Quek, can you kindly advice us how should we deal with this situation in order for them to part ways. Thank you.

14. How can I encourage my child/teenager to be more involved in church activities and YF?

15. How do I “encourage” my daughter to wear “proper” clothes that is pleasing to God? (I consider short shorts, mini skirts, crop tops and spaghetti tops to be improper.)

16. “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” ‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭5:8‬ . To what extent does this verse describe in providing for one’s family? If my child is already a working adult but still living with me, must I provide for them?

17. The Bible is replete with examples of godly men having ungodly children and vice versa. We see this in our church as well. Why? What do parents have to do to "bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord" (besides reading/teaching the Word and prayer)? Is there a case for a Parent Support Fellowship to provide parents with godly, actionable counsel and prayer support for their parenting role.

18. During this pandemic, after so many months of worshipping at home, my children has some reluctance to go church. The reason they go is I push them with no choice but to go. I'm worried that if tomorrow if I'm called home suddenly, the whole house will run topsy turvy and spouse is not stern with them. What am I supposed to do?